Dating and Relationship Therapy.

Less second-guessing. More connection.

You’ve reread the text. Asked a friend what they think it means. Started writing a reply, deleted it, and wondered why dating has to take this much energy.

Or maybe you’re already in a relationship, and you keep having the same argument. You care about each other, but conversations about sex, time together, or household responsibilities go nowhere.

Dating and relationship therapy gives you a place to work through what’s happening and practice doing things differently. I work with individuals, couples and family units who want to communicate more clearly, set boundaries they can follow through on, and feel more comfortable asking for what they need.

Dating Doesn’t Come With Clear Instructions

“Just be yourself” isn’t particularly useful advice when you’re trying to figure out whether someone is interested, when to bring up exclusivity, or how to say you want more than a casual connection.

We can get specific about the parts of dating that trip you up, including:

• Starting conversations and moving from messaging to meeting

• Managing the uncertainty between dates

• Talking about intentions, sex, exclusivity, and relationship expectations

• Recognizing compatibility beyond attraction

• Saying no—or hearing no—without treating it as a verdict on your worth

• Deciding when to keep getting to know someone and when to move on

You don’t need to become someone else to date successfully. We’ll work on helping you express who you are and notice whether the connection works for you, too.

When You Keep Ending Up in the Same Place

Maybe you get attached quickly and spend weeks wondering where you stand. Maybe you lose interest when someone becomes available. Or you agree to things you don’t want because speaking up feels like too much of a risk.

We’ll look at those patterns with curiosity and honesty. Attachment styles can give us useful language, but we’ll focus on what happens in your relationships: what you notice, how you respond, and what you’d like to try next.

If you’re coming out of a breakup, therapy can also help you sort through practical questions: whether to stay in contact, how to handle shared friendships, and what you want to carry into your next relationship.

Relationship Therapy for Individuals, Couples and Polycules

You can love someone and still struggle to talk to them. Sometimes a small disagreement carries months of frustration. Sometimes you’ve been avoiding a conversation because you’re afraid of the answer.

Together, we can work on:

• Bringing up concerns before resentment builds

• Listening without immediately defending yourself

• Making clear requests instead of hoping your partner picks up on hints

• Setting boundaries around time, privacy, family, and independence

• Talking more openly about affection, sex, and intimacy

• Following through on agreements and discussing what happens when they’re broken

You can come on your own, even if your partner isn’t interested in therapy. We can focus on your choices, your communication, and what you need from a relationship.

Support That Respects Your Relationships

I welcome LGBTQ+ clients and people in monogamous, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, and kink relationships. We’ll talk about what commitment, trust, and connection mean to you, including the agreements you want to make with the people you date.

My approach is compassionate, direct, and practical, with humor when it helps. I draw on my therapy background to support skill building, reflection, and everyday changes. Coaching focuses on your goals and relationships; it is a separate service from mental health treatment.

We might practice a difficult conversation, work through a boundary you’re struggling to hold, or make a plan for approaching dating without letting it take over your week.

Want help figuring out your next step? Reach out to talk about dating and relationship coaching and whether we’d work well together.